• SerLava [he/him]
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    3 years ago

    Yeah I don't think anyone here is advocating for just monopolizing your own kids life but like, this article sure isn't talking about that

    • HumanBehaviorByBjork [any, undecided]
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      3 years ago

      idk i'm reading it and

      I can’t say that my approach is right for everyone. I know that it resonates for me in part because of how I was raised. I have no memories of my parents playing with me. I can remember reading together and their swimming with me in the ocean, but they weren’t involved in the fashion shows I filmed with my sisters, and they didn’t help me make my magazine, Kid Stuff, either. Not once did they dine at my fictional restaurant.
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      When my kids and I stop doing our own things and come together, it’s because we want to. The activities we do together offer all of us pleasure; we opt in and because of this, we actually have fun. I may not play, but I’m goofy and affectionate, and I love to talk about feelings. I love to teach too: how to count, how to read, how to make guacamole.

      Yeah that's true to my childhood at least. I kind of assumed that's how most millennials grew up. Adults had their adult stuff that they had to do and as long as I didn't get into a fight with my brother I pretty much expected my parents to stay out of my stuff. It's not like there wasn't intimacy or joy, they just didn't play.

      • usernamesaredifficul [he/him]
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        3 years ago

        yeah the parent doesn't have to act like one of the children to spend quality time with them and frankly I don't think children want them to either

      • ssjmarx [he/him]
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        3 years ago

        they just didn’t play

        I mean, I can see this point of view, but some of my best memories as a kid are playing board games with my mom. She left me alone a lot but she also would shoot BB guns with me, go bike riding, stuff like that. There's definitely a place for "playing" with kids but I think that maybe the article title implies and what the author is talking about are two different things.