I call myself “ostensibly cishet” because I look very much like a straight man, but I certainly don’t feel like a man and live in an area where my life would be destroyed if I referred to myself as something else
My use of language in the above sucks, but as a kid, I would always hang out at “the girls table” or in “the girls section” because the guys would always pick on me. It’s made life super difficult because when I meet a friend who is a woman now and ask them to hangout, their assumption is always that I want a partnership.
I literally only have one female friend who isn’t like this. It’s gotta be the fucking patriarchy right
Anyways, it’s so fucking lonely.
Why are apps only for people looking to fuck/get into relationships :/
Once elementary school was over and gender division was rigidly socially enforced cause 90s, not by anyone in authority but self policed cause hanging out with girls was gay. Since then, pretty much an even split. I was once asked by a server out front if I have 'man colds' and a female work pal said asking me to settle how prevalent dudes exaggerate illness doesn't count as helping her argument cause I guess thats why I was asked. It felt good for a woman to point out that when polling men to get a general man opinion I'm a statistical outlier.