I call myself “ostensibly cishet” because I look very much like a straight man, but I certainly don’t feel like a man and live in an area where my life would be destroyed if I referred to myself as something else

My use of language in the above sucks, but as a kid, I would always hang out at “the girls table” or in “the girls section” because the guys would always pick on me. It’s made life super difficult because when I meet a friend who is a woman now and ask them to hangout, their assumption is always that I want a partnership.

I literally only have one female friend who isn’t like this. It’s gotta be the fucking patriarchy right

Anyways, it’s so fucking lonely.

Why are apps only for people looking to fuck/get into relationships :/

  • Abracadaniel [he/him]
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    10 months ago

    Yep, definitely. I do have some friends who are men but often we I don't really like most men I meet. I've also been confused for gay often in the past (am bi, prefer femme, even pickier with men sexually than socially).

    More recently I do also feel like some think I'm looking for a partner, or unicorn hunting. Which I'm not, but I am a poly slut so that is a possibility, which definitely complicate things.

      • Abracadaniel [he/him]
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        10 months ago

        It doesn't happen much anymore but people would just ask "are you gay?" Or assume I was closeted or something.

        Homophobic remarks too, back in high school, calling me the f-slur or gay (derogatory)