I'll mention something different for my own contribution than my usual:
I've always hated Seinfeld, including when his show was brand new. "It's a show about nothing!" was a thought terminating cliche in the 90s that was used to pitch the show at me again and again by its fans, and also to dismiss any and all problems I had with the show and its ultra-privileged smarmy main character. If I got anything valuable out of that show and for that matter his stand up routine, it was a lifelong allergy to New Yorker comedy that front loads a whole lot of "I am a New Yorker which means I am smarter and tougher and wiser and more cultured and more sophisticated yet more grounded than you" self-aggrandizement into the set. :nyet:
EDIT: Please post your own disliked Hexbear-approved popular things! Don’t just reply to mine! :rage-cry:
That's fair, though honestly quite a lot of people mostly take on the aesthetic of attentiveness through charisma but fall flat once people get to know them.
I think it's understandable that you're probably not actively trying to be selfish, but it can come off that way to someone not used to speaking to people with ASD. It may help to try to get advice from other people with ASD on things they do to mask effectively and such, and given the commonality there it might be possible to form friendships based on that empathy.
Other than that I think if you're trying to slow down, common "nerd" hobbies might be places to find more people who get what you're about. I've been considering that myself, tbh.
Well see, that's the problem with it, that's why I wanted to move closer to where I work. The town I live in has a population of only ~10k people (or less, more likely less frankly), and the last time they measured it the per-capita income of the place was less than half the national average (just a little bit less than that of Russia, and about +80% that of China, but without any of the social services that presumably would be available there). To drive the point home I suppose, one of only two people that I was ever friends with here grew up in a literal tar-paper shack on the outskirts of town. He didn't have reliable access to water for most of the time I knew him, his family got into a spat with the local public utilities board over fines not paid that resulted in them losing garbage removal services for a time, and I once had to sell off most of my own personal affects to keep them from getting evicted when his mom got her disability checks cut off.
So my point here is like; people have tried to open those kinds of stores here before, but there's no fuckin' money here to keep them open.
I do think that sucks and you should be doing better given your description of the kind of person you've been but...yeah, it's crazy how small towns are dying. That's the reason I left one. I'm sorry.
I'm sorry if it's uncomfortable bringing up such matters, I don't mean to impose; I'm mostly just trying to accurately describe the situation I've got myself into.
It's not a big deal! We just kinda reached a point where I'm at the end of what I can say about it. In an ideal society people would be a little more kind to strangers, but in ours sometimes you just have to meet the rest of society halfway because they don't like to budge. But as far as small town life goes, I'm just at the limit of my advice. That's a systemic/structural thing that's beyond me.
I do genuinely hope things look up for you, though.