I have this liberal vegan group that I organise movies, games nights, food events, activism, etc. The group is open to anyone not hurting animals, so we get all types. NGL many members need to spend some time in re-education camp for liberalism or libertarianism.
I've always been uber strict about masks and vaccines, cuz honestly fuck those people. There was one guy I asked to stop attending events because he was the typical wear a mask around the chin person and I knew he had a carefree social life. Motherfucker got covid twice and spent 2 weeks in the hospital. I've gotten pushback for my views, but it's been easy enough as the people pushing back were right-wing and (often enough) mansplaining dickwads.
Now it's the other organiser, who seems to feel that she has ownership of the group because she's owns the social media pages. Not that it matters, but I've been doing it way longer.
The issue is this 67ish year old lady, who's certainly a bit soft in the head, who's anti vax and literally never wears a masks or does social distance, as I often see her around town. Ya, I feel bad for this lonely old lady. I do wonder what her class is, as she's permanently on holiday, but whatever. She's twice gone to events I've put together. I've told her that I won't stay if she comes unmasked, and she comes un-fucking-masked. So I fucking go to the park to read Lenin.
The other organiser tells me that she feels bad for said old lady. Also "people have social needs". But "I shouldn't have to put myself at risk and I don't need long covid". She's says "life is short, we can die any time", and I reply "I wouldn't subject you to extra risk and I don't deserve to be given it against my will".
It's kinda unfair, as I can guess what Hexbear will say. Am I being unkind or uncaring? Also thanks for letting me whinge about the PMC liberal who thinks she runs the group.
you are absolutely not being unkind or uncaring at all, quite the opposite really. you're just trying to keep everyone at the events and yourself safe. being masked for others safety is literally the least people can do.
stick to your gut, I'm sure you can refer the old lady to other events/groups in the area that she can parade around maskless at so she doesn't get too lonely. but all in all, you aren't resposible for her if shes not following your groups rules. honestly I would feel much safer attending events myself if they had a strict vaccine and mask policy, but nowadays with the mask mandate gone I'm just perpetually stuck at home I s'pose. what you're doing is great and accessible to those that don't want to get sick.