Had a high school friend message me, “Bro, what’s your deal?” in a group chat after I asked him several times to stop misgendering me
So I sent this and blocked him lol
just musing here but is "fam" a pretty good neutral substitute or is fam more sarcastic
We’re all white and graduated in 2005 so not an awful idea but probably not gonna catch on in this particular group
Love too be pointlessly hostile and flippant to trans people venting about being misgendered
It varies from person to person, so asking is a safe bet. I didn’t even need this guy to ask. I just told him that I know he only calls men “bro” and that I’d be fine with “dude”
a nicer way to say this same thing would be
"in my circles, bro is typically used a lot and as a gender neutral term of address. it's good to know that's not universal!"
and then you can leave it at that.
I'm assuming good faith from you, but remember that people are sharing vulnerable and sensitive personal experiences here in a lot of cases, so sincerity > snark.
I’m assuming good faith from you
Dude just said he identifies as a gadfly. He’s probably an oldschool goon
yeah, I saw that after I posted. ban incoming. we support you, you are valid. and I'm sorry you had to deal with a transphobic concern troll.
I always try to give the benefit of the doubt because I'm an empathetic person, but we absolutely don't tolerate transphobia here.
No worries I know you’re on it. It’s not his fault his shit was weak 🤷
This is a good point. Kinda wanted to say something similar but didn't want to look like I was playing devil's advocate. I have used bro for women and non-binary people, but if anyone doesn't want me to I won't. Same way I used to use chief a lot but some people thought it was appropriative, so I stopped.(not sure if it is, I've never heard a Native American person weigh in, but best to err on the side of caution.)
Nah, everyone in the chat was on the same page. It wasn’t some mystery I was keeping to myself
I'm not sure what you mean, but I'm gonna go ahead and ask you to clarify since this comment could be interpreted in a bad way.
You'll find that a lot of trans people will not actually accept that it's almost completely removed from gender identity and that it causes dysphoria and acting like it's some joke is really showing your ass. Get the fuck out of here transphobe.
Then they can fuck off back to their reactionary holes like you should.
Walking on eggshells is just fragility. If I have a friend who’s worried something’s gonna piss me off, they ask because we’re adults and don’t have time for insecure bullshit
Please draw a picture of 2 bros fucking each other, I want to see what your interpretation is given that you claim it is neutered of gendered identity.
