FWB = Friends With Benefits.

Genuine question. I'm interested in the concept but wanted to know more about how that actually works out.

How does that type of relationship start?

Is it healthy?

Can it be really unhealthy?

Anyone here have experience with a FWB type relationship and how did/is that for you?

  • WoofWoof91 [comrade/them]
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    2 years ago

    Anyone here have experience with a FWB type relationship and how did/is that for you?

    all of my relationships are varying degrees of this and i wouldn't have it any other way

    How does that type of relationship start?

    some of mine have started from hookup apps/sites where we found out we have shared interests outside of fucking each other, others from just being friends with other queer people or the occasional open minded straight

    Is it healthy?

    has worked for me for over a decade

    Can it be really unhealthy?

    maybe?

    • Plants [des/pair]
      hexagon
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      2 years ago

      Thanks for these answers!

      Yeah i can totally see how amoung respectfully and emotionally mature people these relationships can work out to be totally functional and healthy

      Is a FWB something you went looking for, or was it something that just developed out of other things like just becoming friends but also fucking?

      • WoofWoof91 [comrade/them]
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        2 years ago

        some started on purpose, but most just kinda developed

        for context, i'm aro and am up front about it with people
        sex for me is just something fun to do

        • Plants [des/pair]
          hexagon
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          2 years ago

          Yeah gotcha.

          I'm not aro but I'm also not looking for a long term relationship so that kinda how i got interested in the concept.

          Going out purposefully looking for a FWB seems to be wrong headed. Just making friends and being honest about what I want seems like the correct way forward. Do you think that's right?

          • WoofWoof91 [comrade/them]
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            2 years ago

            depends really

            looking on hookup/dating apps specifically for FWB is fine, so long as you are both upfront about what you want
            making friends and being open about it works too

            first one is friendship that grows out of sex, second is the other way round
            both have worked for me