FWB = Friends With Benefits.

Genuine question. I'm interested in the concept but wanted to know more about how that actually works out.

How does that type of relationship start?

Is it healthy?

Can it be really unhealthy?

Anyone here have experience with a FWB type relationship and how did/is that for you?

  • Soap_Owl [any]
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    2 years ago

    You ever have a buddy you play a game with like maybe you play frizbee golf with them. Maybe you get lunch after sometimes but in general you are both happy to just have someone to play with. Now imagine instead of playing with a Frisbee brand flying disc you are just playing with each others fleshy bits.

    Occasionally it gets weird but that is like anything else in life.

    • Plants [des/pair]
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      2 years ago

      Damn that is kinda such a perfect description of what I'm after.

      Yeah I'm not looking to get married or have kids. But i also don't really have an interest in casual fleeting sex, not that I think that's wrong for people who that is appealing to

      Someone who i just like spending time with plus some sex sounds like a pretty ideal situation

      • Soap_Owl [any]
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        2 years ago

        Have you ever looked into to poly spaces? I feel like that attachment style is pretty common with it and I wouldn't be surprised if you found a pleasant situation there. Even if it didn't end up working out exactly like you want I'm sure it'd be a fun time.

        • Plants [des/pair]
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          2 years ago

          Oh interesting!

          I haven't considered or known that was a thing. How does one get to know poly people?

          • Soap_Owl [any]
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            2 years ago

            It varies from place to place. I would google your city, or the nearest metro type area you would be willing to drive to and check out poly meetups or poly munches. Fet life might be good for your area or it might not. SLS sometiems does but that is more swinger specific. Probably is a reddit group for poly near you but that has a high probability of being weird. I am sure there are some new more focoused ways to do it but I have been out of the game for a while.

            See if they have a meetup or a fun public event like a dinner/movie thing and then just go and talk to people and see if you make any friends. Also any board game meetup near you is probably at least 50% poly people.