Touch some grass dude, humans flirting with each other in public has been happening literally forever. “Oh let’s give control one of the most basic core human activities over entirely to a handful of dating app corporations” my man, go outside
Touch some grass dude, humans flirting with each other in public has been happening literally forever. “Oh let’s give control one of the most basic core human activities over entirely to a handful of dating app corporations” my man, go outside
I mean I've been hit on by, and hit on others in public. So long as you talk to them like an actual human, don't be a creep, don't disturb people clearly uninterested or busy with something else, and don't go from 0-100 instantly, it's usually fun.
Unfortunately many people fail at this basic human decency :doomer:
It seems to me that this is what he's referring to, though he isn't as clear as he could be. I feel like he's saying that approaching strangers in public (outside of places like bars) with the sole intention of dating or having sex with them would be rude, and I would tend to agree. If you're talking to someone and you ask them out politely after discovering some kind of chemistry, that would be different and more acceptable. I wouldn't want to be bothered with that sort of thing if I'm out and busy with other stuff, but that's just me. I assume at least enough people feel the same way that doing that sort of thing would generally be a bad idea.
EDIT: Reading what I wrote, I should make it clear that being at a bar/club also isn't an automatic free pass to approach strangers for dating/sex either, just that being social with strangers in general is a bit more normal in those places. Not everyone goes to the bar to be hit on, or hit on others and it's important to be respectful of that I think.
I agree, but I also feel like collectively designating bars and clubs as the only acceptable place to meet people for these purposes isn't great. On a practical level, lots of people don't drink for whatever reason and shouldn't be locked out of the dating scene. More abstractly, it plays into the capitalistic drive to monetize dating and romance to the point where it is very difficult to even meet people for dating without paying out.
I don't know, I feel like something as simple as "hey, you're cute, could I get your number?" is acceptable almost anywhere. I've done that before, never upset anyone with it :shrug-outta-hecks:
I completely agree, and when this has happened to me it’s made my day, even if I wasn’t interested. It feels nice to have people be interested in you, as long as they aren’t weird about it
It makes your day when it happens, but how often does it happen? If it happened all the time when you go out in public, and frequently from people who are not polite or may even come off as threatening, would it still be as enjoyable?
It's really obvious a shit ton of the dudes in this thread have spent literally zero time reading about what women deal with on a daily fucking basis
If it was impolite or threatening, obviously I would not enjoy that. Hence the “don’t be weird” clarifier. But if it happened frequently I’d love that. I like talking to strangers generally, and I like compliments. Even if it’s just a comment about my appearance, I put a lot of effort into my appearance so it makes me happy to have it recognized
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Yeah a lot of people take hitting on someone/flirting to make unwanted comments on a strangers body immediately, which is just straight up gross behaviour. Just talk to people normally, at most compliment stuff they chose, like their hairstyle or clothes, and even then don't make it some :awooga: sexual comment.
Or they see it as an opportunity to try talk to someone clearly uninterested. It has to be mutual, otherwise it's just harrassment.