If a person is “ugly”/deformed or ND, their flirting is more likely to be perceived in a negative light by whoever they commence it with/receive it from in socially acceptable settings for flirting, especially among normie social circles.

“Oh you wouldn’t care if they were hot” I’m telling you for a fact: even if a really attractive man started flirting with me in public I’d be just as uncomfortable and anxious.

This applies for anyone of any gender.

Not an equal playing field. Men hitting on people (particularly non-men) has a completely different dynamic than other with other genders. You cannot erase the differential there.

Caveat being that im speaking from my observations and dont have any studies to back this up, but this is something that doenst get brought up often enough.

This gets brought up constantly by MRAs trying to justify misogyny.

Weve been conditioned to be shallow fucks who only care about shit thats skin deep in the arena of romance.

Body positivity is vitally important and needs to be part of any intersectional liberation effort. "Skin deep" is a good way to put it because most western beauty norms come out of colonialism, patriarchy, and white supremacy. That is a completely different topic than what is being discussed here though.