Lately, I’ve been realizing I’m really fucking unfunny, and I genuinely think that quality is important when building any type of relationship with someone, friendship or otherwise. I know people always say that there are no “rules” but I genuinely believe they don’t understand how neurodivergent people view rules, but it seems that there is one rule guiding everything. Because a shit ton of anything in life comes down to verbal delivery. I can speak fine, but the tone of my voice has been the source for a shit ton of trauma.
ME TOO
I don't know that there is a single person in my life, including the person I married and also the person I birthed, that doesn't have a hard time understanding / consistently misunderstands my tone.
Literally every single person in my life
The literal tone police coming at us, hate to see it.
Oh my god thank you so much for this validation
I’ve tried to explain to people that I’ve lost relationships/opportunities for my tone and repeatedly been told that it’s “just not a good fit”
My sister who works with kids on the spectrum that tone is something that you must change in autistic people. That, and filtering yourself. Filter in a “now that was a good sentence, but did we need THAT many words? :) (was treated like this multiple times irl this week)
Maybe it’s just an extremely soulless truth, but I don’t understand why we don’t acknowledge the pain that comes with it. Feels like I don’t exist
this comment hits me on so many levels, this is my entire life
never a good fit, always too many words, always the wrong tone
I feel you 💔
lol put that way, it’s kinda incredible how people can call themselves progressive while seeing something like this as authoritarian and violating
Example though- actually had a childhood friend who was actually based as all hell in retrospect, but she was always quick to point out how not abridging the rights of others was a key feature of free speech, contradictions in what we were being taught about the government and usually to the tune of “awwww she’s so cute and sooooo smart!”
No idea how she slipped through the cracks, but it’s that behavior my sister works to destroy. She would’ve preferred a “Now do we have enough evidence for that? Maybe we should get back on topic” and the topic is learning about how thanksgiving was the pilgrims and native Americans living happily ever after
I was bullied in school for having a monotone voice, it's been over a decade and i'm not really over it, I hate my voice
but my deadpan delivery comes in handy pretty regularly tbh, I'm funny as
You're totally deadpan, I sound like I'm wildly ranting when I'm just trying to tell someone about my day — if we could combine our two voices, we would have the societal ideal 😂
we should have a comedy show, in which you say the most insane shit in your deadpan voice and I say the most boring drivel in my screaming rant