Focus always on the consequences of their behavior, not their intentions, which are both harder to discern, and also less important anyway. If a person is acting in a way that has the same result as a wrecker, they need to be removed from whatever they're wrecking.
When you address them and their behavior, you don't need to be mean about it (especially if you suspect they mean well), but explain to them that there behavior has been disruptive / harmful, and why it has been so. If they have the right priorities, you'll see them either change their behavior, or at least have the sense to accept why they're being moved away from a particular activity.
Focus always on the consequences of their behavior, not their intentions, which are both harder to discern, and also less important anyway. If a person is acting in a way that has the same result as a wrecker, they need to be removed from whatever they're wrecking.
When you address them and their behavior, you don't need to be mean about it (especially if you suspect they mean well), but explain to them that there behavior has been disruptive / harmful, and why it has been so. If they have the right priorities, you'll see them either change their behavior, or at least have the sense to accept why they're being moved away from a particular activity.
you said this better than I could
He saved you the trouble of leaning forwards in your armchair.