You gotta dab it, don't wipe. If it's still breaking apart you made need some better paper. I use charmin (i think) and don't typically have problems, but my friends have some bargain bin thin stuff and it breaks apart pretty easily. The bright side of having to use more expensive paper is you don't use as much. I've thought about using a plain hand towel that I would just wash regularly, but I'm not at that level of trusting my butt's cleanliness yet. I mean, it's not any different than showering after pooping and using my regular towel to dry off, but in my head it's weird.