Compulsive spending to me signals a serious dopamine deficit in a person.
Therapy
Make sure this isn't caused by an underlying substance addiction (they could be buying things to barter for drugs or pawn for cash, etc)
Investigate their social group - they could be emulating behavior that is normalized by others who have more financial freedom.
Best of luck - hope you guys can patch up the relationship. This definitely isn't your fault but you may want to work on communication in couple's therapy - they don't want to feel like a burden so you could benefit from finding a method of communication to make sure they don't feel like one.
Compulsive spending to me signals a serious dopamine deficit in a person
Yeah I was gonna chime in and say when my ADHD isn't managed it's terrifyingly easy to lose track of money spent like this, and it's always worse when I've got a lot of other stress or I can't use my other outlets for blowing off steam (I need to physically craft things or periodically do something creative, when prevented from doing this for long periods of time my impulse spending can get bad)
Compulsive spending to me signals a serious dopamine deficit in a person.
Best of luck - hope you guys can patch up the relationship. This definitely isn't your fault but you may want to work on communication in couple's therapy - they don't want to feel like a burden so you could benefit from finding a method of communication to make sure they don't feel like one.
Yeah I was gonna chime in and say when my ADHD isn't managed it's terrifyingly easy to lose track of money spent like this, and it's always worse when I've got a lot of other stress or I can't use my other outlets for blowing off steam (I need to physically craft things or periodically do something creative, when prevented from doing this for long periods of time my impulse spending can get bad)