Long story short, my GF is from a race that my bigot father has told me horrible racist shit about for years, just boilerplate Fox News-level analysis of why to hate and fear X race. They met for the first time, and after she left I told him I was uncomfortable introducing them bc of his bigotry. He got all, "I'm not looking at her as X, I'm looking at her as your girlfriend", but I was like "I don't fucking care how you want to justify it, you're a racist bigot and all you're capable of doing is repeating whatever fascist ideology you watch on TV. It doesn't make me feel any better that you think she's 'one of the good ones.'" Then I left.
I've thought that for a long time, finally said it, but I feel horrible about it - it doesn't exactly make me feel good to make an old man feel angry and sad. But at the end of the day it's his own god damn fault for subjecting me to bigoted ideology for decades.
just had to vent a lil bit thanks comrades :meow-hug:
Honest communication with family members is important and, ultimately, respectful - even if it's about an element of their behaviour that you don't respect.
Nice work comrade :sankara-salute:
I remember hearing Dan Savage talk about the tremendous power adult children have over their parents, because most parents ultimately want to spend time with their children and grandchildren. If they perceive that their access to children and grandchildren is under threat, that can be leveraged to make parents smarten the fuck up.
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