Got to be the unknowing for me, there's actually a chance of them going vegan. Most of the others are too sociopathic

  • edwardligma [he/him]
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    2 years ago

    genuine question, whats the main thing stopping you?

    if its that its hard, yeah i wont lie its hard for the first month or so while you figure out wtf youre doing but i was stunned at how remarkably easy it was after that, and im sure plenty of comrades here would be very happy to provide assistance. most of us were in your shoes at some stage

      • edwardligma [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        yeah thats really rough, i understand and it sounds like youve probably tried everything i could suggest

        fwiw im a pretty bad eater, and if i buy junk food shit i will absolutely just eat it for dinner instead of making proper meals, so i always make a point that its much easier for me to exert self control briefly when im at the supermarket than all the time at home, and prevent myself from buying all the junk food shit. i tend to snack on a lot of cashews, which at least have the advantage of having protein and being kinda healthy. and also muesli bars. and having foods around that are slightly-more-effort-but-still-easy for those times when my head is really fucked - pasta with a jar of sauce, canned beans and rice, etc. spinach is my go-to veg for just shoving in stuff for some green with no extra effort, although it is kinda expensive and does go off. ive also been really fortunate to have a supportive partner who loves cooking and has helped me embrace making more shit. but yeah i realise this stuff is not always possible for everyone

          • Eris235 [undecided]
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            2 years ago

            Yeah, I'm allergic to all nuts, and a ton of seeds, and some other random stuff. I get by being vegan by cooking 100% of my meals; I'm always that person with packed meals, and safe snacks stashed around for emergencies. But also, while it works for me, it is work, and I understand similar people in my situation sticking with 'easy' carnist food. Though I also do enjoy cooking, even if it might be a bit stockholm syndrome; even when I ate meat, I still cooked mostly, as eating out is a stressful gamble for me in most cases.

    • spring_rabbit [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      Scumbag who wants to be not a scumbag here.

      Relationships can make it harder. It was very easy for me to give up dairy (lactose-intolerant) and eggs (just not a fan), but my bf and I eat dinner together and he is a carnist. It's easy to choose vegan options when we eat out, but wanting to grocery shop/cook/eat dinner with him has been my biggest Scumbag barrier.

      • edwardligma [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        yeah that can make it tricky. could you maybe ask him to watch dominion(cw: extremely graphic violence) with you - framed not necessarily as trying to convert him but at least to make him understand why its so important to you? so he can at least try to eat vegan meals with you at home?

        i havent gotten my partner fully vegan yet (though shes really close now) and she will still eat meat stuff sometimes when im not there because shes really paranoid about health stuff, but understanding that its important to me has meant that she will always happily eat vegan with me at home. discovering and cooking really delicious new vegan recipes together has been a big thing towards getting her in the right direction (pickuplimes is my favourite vegan recipe site btw, theres so many good and quite easy and cheap things on there). cos if he comes to appreciate that a lot of vegan food is actually tasty as hell, he might be easier to convince

        • GenderIsOpSec [she/her]
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          2 years ago

          ( pickuplimes is my favourite vegan recipe site btw, theres so many good and quite easy and cheap things on there)

          :soy-cutie: another one added to my collection