Making an OD profile reminded me of making a resume in like all the worst ways possible.
Really made me feel like trying to convince someone to date me. Idk but in my mind it shouldn't take convincing, if we have a genuine connection it should happen organically.
Yeah if you have to "convince" someone, it can get one sided real quick and I really don't want to fall into that.
Obviously don't be a slob though and be the best version of yourself and put effort in, but if you're constantly having to prove something, yea no I don't think that's healthy
To me it was always just trying to get a first date and see where it goes from there. I had a bit of luck with those dating apps though, I know it doesn't work for a lot of people. I found that having a little conversation then asking to meet up for a date worked well.
I found it much harder to just walk up to someone at a bar and be like "hey do you want a drink" or whatever, always felt like I was imposing and it was super awkward. Then you have to go through the "convincing" stage anyway, except it's loud as fuck and everyone's drunk
haha, i never thought about it but totally. back when i was 19ish was when everybody suddenly had cellphones. at that time it was protocol to ask for the phone number and then, some short time later, ring them up to ask them out on a specific date (smooth, but serious) or just shoot the shit with them on the phone for a bit to see if you click in conversation (chill).
now calling someone on the phone to ask someone out or, worse, for a chat is like criminal pervert territory, unless it's an older relative or a friend far away without internet.
Making an OD profile reminded me of making a resume in like all the worst ways possible.
Really made me feel like trying to convince someone to date me. Idk but in my mind it shouldn't take convincing, if we have a genuine connection it should happen organically.
Yeah if you have to "convince" someone, it can get one sided real quick and I really don't want to fall into that.
Obviously don't be a slob though and be the best version of yourself and put effort in, but if you're constantly having to prove something, yea no I don't think that's healthy
To me it was always just trying to get a first date and see where it goes from there. I had a bit of luck with those dating apps though, I know it doesn't work for a lot of people. I found that having a little conversation then asking to meet up for a date worked well.
I found it much harder to just walk up to someone at a bar and be like "hey do you want a drink" or whatever, always felt like I was imposing and it was super awkward. Then you have to go through the "convincing" stage anyway, except it's loud as fuck and everyone's drunk
Tbh I blame online dating for making trying to meet people irl seem weird and odd now
It's the enclosure of the commons but for irl dating
haha, i never thought about it but totally. back when i was 19ish was when everybody suddenly had cellphones. at that time it was protocol to ask for the phone number and then, some short time later, ring them up to ask them out on a specific date (smooth, but serious) or just shoot the shit with them on the phone for a bit to see if you click in conversation (chill).
now calling someone on the phone to ask someone out or, worse, for a chat is like criminal pervert territory, unless it's an older relative or a friend far away without internet.
My own mother won't even call me for a direct conversation. Social media has fucked up communication well beyond dating