I live in a country that's fascist as fuck, so activists get locked up all the time, and my boyfriend says to me, when I'm just starting to get involved – not to practice opsec, or express worries but just not to associate myself with anyone who's ever been arrested. Not convicted. This is everyone doing anything meaningful.
Eventually, I realise his conception of doing good in the world and I quote: "You can acknowledge collective action problems without choosing to be the one who bells the cat." The threshold, for the amount of personal risk he seems acceptable to help other people out is... it's negligible. He'd never work at organisation with activists who've been arrested before because, wait for this, you might have a hard time getting hired if you're associated with them. (Not even the risk of getting arrested.) We're bougie asf. PMC.
He's basically left of centre when the times are good and right when it affects him personally.
It's gonna end us.
Yeah like the last statement acknowledges, I recognise that. I think if someone lives their life in that much fear or like those are their priorities – forcing them to align alongside mine by the risk they're exposed through our relationship... That's not love. It's still hard to deal with.
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