idk, personally I'm pretty good at emotionally disconnecting myself from a situation I'm in. Like when customers yell at me at work, I never really get mad or frustrated or upset, because the way I process it, they're just yelling at a drone performing x task for y money. It's very easy for me to just go "Okay, would you like to get this done with now? Yes, yes--Sign here please. Right, I get it. It's not a big deal, just need you to sign the paper." Even while they're busy yelling at me over nothing lol

And so I think keeping cool when people are being racist or sexist or whatever around me is a similar situation. All of the "yikes" just stays internal and I usually disengage from whatever conversation but it just doesn't really get to me. In a similar way to customers yelling at the corporate drone wearing my skin, the racist is talking to a hypothetical fellow racist that they think I am. What do I care if they think I'm one of them? What's the benefit if I get into an argument with them?

Obviously there's a certain level of risk management involved with that part. Like if I'm not at work or anything and I don't feel like the other person could be a threat, I'll absolutely call them out. But I'm not going to argue with them. Classic chapo tactics with the hardcore chuds, never take them seriously and never look like I care more than they do. The point is to mock them, not Win The Debate

I was playing League the other day and I joined some random's discord server that they posted in lobby chat, which is something people often do to set up communication for the match. I saw multiple pepe profile pictures so I was immediately like "this probably isn't good" but I was not prepared for how bad it really was. It really took me back to Modern Warfare 2, I swear. They were throwing around every slur you can imagine, calling me and my buddy who had joined slurs. It was straight up harrassment, honestly no idea why they even posted the link. They didn't seem like they wanted us there. But I just let them keep going, and then when the match was over I was just like "you guys are the absolute worst" with an actual grin on my face and left. The whole thing was so surreal, I didn't know they even made kids like that anymore. Thought that model was recalled around 2012. So when faced with the most over-the-top verbal abuse and bigotry I've seen in a long time, I felt nothing but pure contempt and amusement. It just doesn't make me mad.

Idk if any of that is applicable to another person. But yeah, try focusing on just how fucking pathetic chuds are. Really channel your inner