I thought she just didn't want to do sex stuff or cuddle or show affection..
Anyway I just thought it was important to let the world know that you can be volcel army and still be in a committed ten year relationship. In fact isn't that what true comradeship is built on?
Weapons grade cope aside, I think I'm one of those weird types of humans who needs affection and so on. Am I really going to have to start dating again? FUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUUCK
If they’re not able to meet you somewhere that works, you gotta protect yourself.
Do not expect nonmonagamy to work. It will add a tremendous amount of stress to both your lives and your relationship. This is almost never a positive outcome.
This should be clarified. Non-monogamy can work very well for people who are non-monogamous in some capacity and intentional about their relationship structures from the get go. It's a terrible idea for monogamous people who don't feel their needs are being met to try to open up to correct that.
As a non monogamous person myself this is a fair point. It takes and entirely diffrent skill set to do this successfully and there is no guarantee life would have prepared you both adequately at this moment.
Weird take, non monogamy is great