On one hand it makes sense that medieval european social relations imply, well, medieval european social relations and it makes sense to use your novel (or your show) to examine those.

On the other I can relate to many people wanting to see women in medieval fantasy to be represented in some other way than constant misery porn.

The tweet.

  • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    The people saying she is fat, ugly and dumb are the reactionary people of Westeros and not GRRM

    Incorrect, it is GRRM's narration calling her fat, ugly and dumb, "like a cow" I seem to remember his favorite phrase being.

    • A_Serbian_Milf [they/them]
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      2 years ago

      Have you read the books? Every chapter is narrated by a character via their internal monologues. It was the character saying that and you have a really hard time grasping this.

      Was GRRM endorsing necromancy when he wrote a chapter from the perspective of Qyburn?

      • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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        2 years ago

        Of course I've read the books, I have detailed information about the way specific events were described happening to an irrelevant side character who may or may not have ever spoken a word. What the hell kind of question is that? lmao

        Just because the books are written from characters' perspectives does not mean it isn't GRRM writing them. He wrote them, not the fictional characters, and inevitably his quirks will show through.

        • A_Serbian_Milf [they/them]
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          2 years ago

          It just doesn’t seem like you understand the concept of fiction and would get mad at an actor who plays a villain

                • A_Serbian_Milf [they/them]
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                  2 years ago

                  I am not male, I’m not your “buddy” and I have been raped before. Think before you talk

                  • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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                    2 years ago

                    Curious how everyone who tells me to "disengage" keeps on replying. Very interesting. Wonder why that might be. Could a person be disingenuously trying to weaponize rules meant for making this place safer and less toxic in order to make it less safe and more toxic? :shocked-pikachu:

                    • A_Serbian_Milf [they/them]
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                      2 years ago

                      You first called a rape victim a fan of rape for disagreeing with you, then you refused to disengage and then you misgendered me. I can make a response to this level of shit hurled at me

                        • A_Serbian_Milf [they/them]
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                          2 years ago

                          I would frame it as “I don’t moralize over every fictional account of bad things and blame the author” but you do you.

                          No you responded to my request to disengage with a condescending misgender. That was you, not me

                          • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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                            2 years ago

                            No you responded to my request to disengage with a condescending misgender.

                            :cat-confused:

                            Literally what the hell are you talking about

                              • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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                                2 years ago

                                It was clearly not a genuine request to disengage considering you're STILL REPLYING :bird-screm-2:

                                I didn't misgender you, I still literally have no idea where you got that from

                                • A_Serbian_Milf [they/them]
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                                  2 years ago

                                  Buddy is a gendered term, especially when used condescendingly and in the context of basically calling me a rape apologist. You know exactly what you are doing, and the disengage request has already been broken by you trying to get the last word in

                                    • GreenTeaRedFlag [any]
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                                      2 years ago

                                      Geez, I wonder why the person who was hurt and asked you to stop talking didn't stop talking when you continued to talk. Log off

                                    • robot_dog_with_gun [they/them]
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                                      2 years ago

                                      Pat Nixon is on this list but it's mostly men. https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Buddy_(nickname)

                                      i don't really think of buddy as being gendered but i guess I can see why somebody would

                                      • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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                                        2 years ago

                                        I mean, I guess? I've never heard anyone express the opinion that "buddy" is a gendered term before. My entire life I have heard men, women, and nonbinary people referred to as "buddy" by men, women, and nonbinary people. It's not even like "dude" where it's mostly gendered but can be used in other ways, like it literally just doesn't have that connotation at all for me.

                                          • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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                                            2 years ago

                                            Ok, I mean, three commenters there say it is gendered, three say it is gender neutral. Regardless, you don't need to worry about me calling you "buddy" or anything because I will not be addressing you. Please leave me alone.

            • MC_Kublai [none/use name]
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              2 years ago

              I haven’t watched GOT or read ASOIAF and I’m just popping in to say that you are deliberately misinterpreting the other person’s words in bad faith. “I get that you’re a big fan of the portrayal of rape”??? What kind of asshole says something like this off the cuff?

              • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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                2 years ago

                Here is a quote:

                To omit sexual violence would be a whitewash of war and reality

                This is the kind of thing :reddit-logo:ors say constantly in discussions about the merit of specific depictions of rape in order to shut down those discussions and act like the problem is the depiction of rape as a whole.

                • MC_Kublai [none/use name]
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                  2 years ago

                  What are you even trying to argue here? That rape should never be portrayed in media in any way shape or form?

                  • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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                    2 years ago

                    ?????

                    No. What? Where the hell did you get that from? Nothing I have said has in any way implied anything nearing that conclusion. I have, in fact, explicitly stated otherwise at every single opportunity. :jesse-wtf: :jesse-wtf: :jesse-wtf: :jesse-wtf:

                    • MC_Kublai [none/use name]
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                      2 years ago

                      So then what are you arguing? What do you specifically disagree with in the quote? I don’t think portrayal of rape is a necessity when depicting war, but it is absolutely a reality of it. The focus should be on whether that portrayal is done in a manner that provides substance, or if it is simply exploitative.

                      • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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                        2 years ago

                        What do you specifically disagree with in the quote?

                        I disagree that it has anything to do with the conversation. It is a disingenuous strawman intended to shut down criticism of specific portrayals of specific rapes.

                        To give a concrete example, the depictions of sexual violence against Daenerys in ASOIAF are well done. The depictions of sexual violence against Lollys are gratuitous, gross, and weird.

                        • MC_Kublai [none/use name]
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                          2 years ago

                          Fair enough, I can’t comment on either of these since I haven’t seen or read them. I’ll just say that from what was written in this thread, u/A_Serbian_Milf seemed to be making fair points concerning narrative voices, and accusing them of being fans of the portrayal of rape because of their opinion on a piece of art is a ridiculous escalation that no one should ever do, especially considering your target may in fact be a victim themselves.

                          • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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                            2 years ago

                            air points concerning narrative voices

                            The thing about that is, the books truly are not written from characters' perspectives entirely. Each chapter follows a character, and might include a good chunk of internal monologue from that character which gives an insight into how they think about other characters, themselves, the politics, and their place in the world. But there is also true narration, separate from the character's internal monologue, which is written in GRRM's voice, and it is parts of this narration I took issue with.

                            • HarryLime [any]
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                              2 years ago

                              But there is also true narration, separate from the character’s internal monologue, which is written in GRRM’s voice, and it is parts of this narration I took issue with.

                              Where? He consistently writes in a 3'rd person limited style, from the perspective of the viewpoint characters. There's no 3'rd person omniscient perspective in the books where Martin is telling you what he thinks through his actual voice. Everything is told through the layers of the characters' perspectives.

                              • A_Serbian_Milf [they/them]
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                                2 years ago

                                I guess we have to get into narrative voice analysis to determine whether or not I’m a rape apologist

                                • HarryLime [any]
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                                  2 years ago

                                  Oh wow, I saw where she called you that. That's pretty fucking horrible, even more that people are upvoting her.

                                  • A_Serbian_Milf [they/them]
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                                    2 years ago

                                    People pick their side at the top of the thread and then just go vote accordingly, I doubt half of them even read it

                            • MC_Kublai [none/use name]
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                              2 years ago

                              It definitely does seem a bit :yikes: to have a character who serves as the butt of a joke for most of their presence be brutally raped. Again I can't give a proper take on this, and I don't know if GRRM managed to make a cogent point with this. Serb seemed to think so, but really my main issue here is what you said to them over how they interpreted the text. Please don't do that, it creates an extremely hostile environment, especially for victims. I like this place because discourse generally doesn't gravitate in that direction.

                  • A_Serbian_Milf [they/them]
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                    2 years ago

                    They want their Disney monarchist propaganda without any icky bad things that really happened under monarchies

        • CanYouFeelItMrKrabs [any, he/him]
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          2 years ago

          happening to an irrelevant side character who may or may not have ever spoken a word.

          In a lot of media there is a villain who kills a subordinate who messes up or delivers bad news or something. This subordinate is irrelevant to the story, the viewer is just supposed to see that the villain is bad or crazy.

          I don't think writers want underlings to be vaporized randomly

          • Catherine_Steward [she/her]
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            2 years ago

            I actually don't see how this is relevant to the conversation at all. What are you talking about?