Therapy and honestly a lot of luck/privilege. Took me years after getting in shape to get past the idea that I was untouchable. I had fucked myself up so bad mentally over childhood, avoiding mirrors and taking pictures. Definitely still dealing with the reprocussions emotionally/psychologically. My self consciousness about my weight led to me burying any sexuality until late in college, which made it tough to mature in that regard. But once I got in shape, honestly just getting on dating apps and putting myself out there did wonders. Perhaps I would have found the same even before I got in shape, but I'll never know for sure.
Regardless, it's a fucking struggle, has been and probably always will be there to a degree. If you have any more specific questions feel free to ask lol.
It's never too late. There's so many like each of us out there, it's simply about allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to fully connect with the other people, to allow them to understand you and take you as you are. You might be surprised to find that you're more valued to other people than you think :)
Therapy and honestly a lot of luck/privilege. Took me years after getting in shape to get past the idea that I was untouchable. I had fucked myself up so bad mentally over childhood, avoiding mirrors and taking pictures. Definitely still dealing with the reprocussions emotionally/psychologically. My self consciousness about my weight led to me burying any sexuality until late in college, which made it tough to mature in that regard. But once I got in shape, honestly just getting on dating apps and putting myself out there did wonders. Perhaps I would have found the same even before I got in shape, but I'll never know for sure.
Regardless, it's a fucking struggle, has been and probably always will be there to a degree. If you have any more specific questions feel free to ask lol.
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It's never too late. There's so many like each of us out there, it's simply about allowing yourself to be vulnerable enough to fully connect with the other people, to allow them to understand you and take you as you are. You might be surprised to find that you're more valued to other people than you think :)