I went in my first date a few days ago and still bummed out because of how bad it was. Or at least how bad I think it was. I feel like I was too serious. Too “to the point.”

  • Acute_Engles [he/him, any]
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    2 years ago

    CW: awkward sexual encounter

    A first date where I made it clear that I wasn't looking for casual sex but got essentially tricked into going to their place instead of out for dinner, smoking a bunch of weed then going along as they proceeded to get all up on me. Realizing that I'm not comfortable at the point where we are in bed, naked and in the midst of foreplay and then just saying "i have to go" and leaving.

    I still cringe because i can't help but imagine how they felt and i doubt i adequately explained myself afterward.

    This has happened twice basically the exact same situation.

    I'm demi but certainly not ace and it feels very awkward for me to decline sex because I've been conditioned to think that a girl being sexual to me is the same as her liking me romantically. I also really hate making people feel bad and i know that I would feel awful in their shoes.

    I do not miss dating.