I have a fundamental issue with allyship from the getgo and believe that allies should have no voice on internal queer dialogue. This stems from so many instances where people demand you couch your language and make it appealing to allies lest the allies abandon your group, but at that point, did you even want them? Having non-queer people march and stand in solidarity and advocate for queer rights is an integral part of pushing for equality, but do they actually need to be recognized as this special group? I remember in college a few people said that the A in LGBTQIA was for ally and it bugged me even before I had a decade of time to digest other people's opinions on allyship. It centers the feelings of the ally before the community they're supporting, acting as if their simple action of being not a terrible person gives them an identity that includes them. The straight-ally flag feels like an extension of all of this, where it's centering the ally over the community they're supposedly allying with. The ally can drop their flag at any point and walk away with next to zero consequence while queer people aren't able to drop their identities, the flags are a way to represent a group that has been oppressed for generations under a white cis-het power structure that has destroyed queer culture the world over and even if someone drops the flag, they're left with consequences from this power structure.