Old post, I know, but I just saw it again. I'm definitely not fully asexual, but demi enough that I just... can't relate to finding anyone (or anything) sexually attractive unless I'm like, close friends with them. But post is extra relatable for me, since I did go as Bowsette for halloween a few years ago, and I totally share the opinion of 'I just think she's neat', without actually like, finding her attractive. I dunno, its weird.
But yeah, definitely alienating growing up, and everyone talking about their celebrity crushes (especially hearing about it from stereotypically cis-het boys being their stereotypically horny selves), and just being like "?", "?????????", and like, learning to talk about about how 'fuckable' people are to fit in, and just, not really 'getting' what it feels like everyone else is talking about? As much as Tumblr sucks in a lot of ways, I wish it was around instead of 4chan when I was a middleschooler/highschooler.
Like, I still find it deeply weird and unrelatable that apparently it's regarded as 'normal' for a lot of people to masturbate to the thoughts of their friends, and how literally horny people are over characters (especially anime characters). Not that I'm any judge of what is or isn't normal, but its just kind of, alien to me, to think about being turned on by that, but also I've literally said horny shit to fit in, and to like, expression 'appreciation' for characters I think are neat.
closing the post out with an image of a childlike anime dragon
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All v relatable. I tbh find allosexuality, or more so allonormativity, off-putting.
"He's cute" yup!
"He's cute, I want him to abuse my throat" :jesse-wtf: what?
My partner is demiromantic so kind of the inverse. She’s always confused by the idea of crushes and doesn’t understand all the mushy feelings people have about new partners. We’ve had many long conversations where I try to explain the feelings of a crush and the concept behind it but it’s like describing flying to a fish, it just doesn’t compute. She just wants to fuck and then the feelings start to fill in after the fact :shrug-outta-hecks:
Conversely, as much as I think randomly wanting to sex people is weird, I get crushes all the fucking time on friends when I'm single and lonely (happily, been years since that's been true).
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Yeah. I thought “waifu” was just what character you liked, not sexually attracted to.
i think its very strange, even wrong feeling to get all horny about like a real person when they're not there and consenting. i didnt realize people did that at all until i saw it in a movie.
and for characters and erotica/professional personas its also weird to me for that to go any further than lizard brain. ig thats objectifying but idk i think thats preferable to parasociality, my heart goes out to sexworkers who live off parasocial labor that sounds beyond terrifying to me
Yeah, I had a similar moment on a reddit thread years ago, where the vast majority of comments were in agreement about having masturbated to irl peers. Noy that reddit is the best measure of 'well adjusted people', but I've seen the sentiment elsewhere too.
And yeah, gotta be exhausting to need to fulfill both a social and sexual void for strangers. Fully agree that it sounds terrifying.
If someone knowingly signed on to some media production where the goal is for you to feel that way, is it still wrong
no i think thats fine and what my second paragraph is kinda obliquely treating with, but its important that its thought of as performance, in the same way you wouldnt think an actor is in a role when you see them in like, a store, the people working a strip club are not to be fetishized the moment they clock out/get off stage, yknow? so for example id think it weird to get horny on a sex worker's social media post that isnt directly related to their work
nothing wrong with feeling things ofc and tbh some normative stuff around this is relatively harmless but this is just how my thinking goes
I agree with Dolores, that it 'feels wrong' to me, but to be clear, most of the stuff I've said here that I think feels 'weird' or 'wrong', I mean to me. I don't intend to shame people for thoughts, and I don't want to shame people for being allosexual. I just mean that it feels weird and wrong, for me to think about people doing that.
I do intend to shame people for finding anime character sexually attractive
