Practically every email I've received in maybe the past year has started with "I hope you are well". I even had an LLM draft a placeholder email for me and it started with the same thing. This has not always been the case and it's strange to me that everyone I interact with begins their emails with this line. Frankly, it's annoying AF.
What gives? Who started this? Why has it become so prevalent? More importantly, how do we stop it?
While I'm at it, if you work in tech / customer support, I urge you to speak with your supervisors to minimize the boiler plate copy paste trash you insert into your emails. People dealing with shit that's not working as intended or desired do not have the mental or emotional capacity to wade through your platitudinal nonsense. Get to the fucking point.
It has it's roots in actual letter writing, as in "I hope this letter finds you well".
I always wonder what this means. Does it mean "I hope this letter does a good job finding you, and you can subsequently read it" or does it mean "When this does find you, I hope it recognizes you are having a good day".
Stock boiler plate regardless and one of the best ways to convince the recipient you are a twat.
Neither. The recipient needs more water, and the letter may or may not find them a well to get water from.
Imagine a time before instant communications, where you have no idea how life has treated the recipient since you last saw them and it might take months for your letter to arrive. It is a sincere hope that they are well and that tradgedy has not befallen them.
It would be neurotic and unreasonable if your last update on their life was only days or even hours before, but in the days of letters hope is really all you had. It's just honest.
Good idea. I just searched for "hope well" and have found hundreds if not over a thousand messages. Without scrolling all the way back, I found several in 2017 with variations of "hope you're well", "hope you're doing great", "hope you had a great weekend". etc.
Pretty sure nobody has any real idea how to send text correspondence anymore.
Like, I work in a building 10+ miles away from my boss and often communication is done through text, email, occasionally by voice, but almost never in person.
Every time I send a work email to my boss/coworkers, I find myself staring at the screen wondering..."Wait, is there any particular way to start these things? 'Dear So-n-So' is really weird. 'First/Last Name' seems fine unless I'm sending the email to multiple people, which happens pretty regularly. Would just jump straight into the body of the text, but that seems... wrong somehow... and potentially confusing if an email address is not something that is human readable or mixed in with a list of email addresses."
Eventually I just bang something out and figure, whatever, its not like 90% of my emails seem to get read by anybody anyways.
If I'm sending it to one person I'll open with "First," or "Hey/Hi First,". For multiple people, "Hello,".
I like to get to the point and hope to influence others to do the same. I have other coworkers who send me messages in Teams that literally just say "Hello". I mean, come on. You're going to distract me with "Hello" and not ask me a question? I'm not responding to Hello or even can I ask you something. Of course you can ask me something, that's what I'm here for and that's why we have the ability to communicate with each other. Spit it out kid!
"Hello" is probably the best answer but I find myself having a knee jerk "but it seems too informal to use in a work setting" that I will need to get over.
After some trepidation I'll confess that I find these "hope you are well" also annoying though it depends who the sender is. What I find more annoying are the "OK, boomer" comments on the Internet. I mean what can you say after such a reply ?
Dear OP,
I hope you and your family and friends and relatives and co-workers are wellTo nip it in the bud it's entirely the influence of the overly polite English and since Brexit this has deteriorated (de-Tory-ated). Just saying 😀
One thing that I've found with junior staff is that they feel a need to be overly nice in their correspondence without realizing the interaction takes time.
can you imagine if they began every email with "how are you?"
then every time you would panic and wonder if you should reply
