I feel that too. Lived in both the inner city and suburbs when I was in the US. People in the inner city used the f-slur a lot more openly while the suburbanites would say that shit behind your back and you'd get it especially bad if you acted flamboyant at all. But this was also the mid 2000's when homophobia was still largely accepted even in liberal circles. To me it looks a lot like racial acceptance. The inner city was a lot more vocal about its racism with little race wars taking place as young as first grade. The suburbs would tolerate you as long as you behaved like them. Anything deviating from that would get you labelled as "ghetto."
It's like that with lgbt. They like you as long as you don't act outwardly flamboyant or cut your hair a certain way. I hear it whenever I visit my American family in the suburbs. They'll have a few gay friends and trans family members, but shit on gay guys that talk a certain way and trans women that don't pass.
I feel that too. Lived in both the inner city and suburbs when I was in the US. People in the inner city used the f-slur a lot more openly while the suburbanites would say that shit behind your back and you'd get it especially bad if you acted flamboyant at all. But this was also the mid 2000's when homophobia was still largely accepted even in liberal circles. To me it looks a lot like racial acceptance. The inner city was a lot more vocal about its racism with little race wars taking place as young as first grade. The suburbs would tolerate you as long as you behaved like them. Anything deviating from that would get you labelled as "ghetto."
It's like that with lgbt. They like you as long as you don't act outwardly flamboyant or cut your hair a certain way. I hear it whenever I visit my American family in the suburbs. They'll have a few gay friends and trans family members, but shit on gay guys that talk a certain way and trans women that don't pass.