I've always been hesitant to try online dating because 1.) I'm a guy 2.) I look like hell 3.) the algorithm prioritizes profit.

But lately I feel like it may be easier to throw my expectations out there and cross my fingers. Seems easier than trying to speak to people in person. But then again, the human aspect sorta just disappears too and I'm now stuck in a game of numbers, and perhaps quite literally as apps line Tinder gamify their services.

Anyway, I don't have anyone I could call a close friend. Hell, I don't even have anyone to call in general lol. I'm thinking it's a bad idea to dip my toes in that crap because I have nowhere to turn when the rejections inevitably come in. Plus at least with face-to-face interactions, I can have some sort of closure (I don't really know how to articulate this part. I guess being able to read faces will give me a better chance of understanding what I did wrong vs. emotionless text on a screen).

  • infuziSporg [e/em/eir]
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    2 years ago

    I remember one of my FB friends in a different city posting a couple years back that she was "accepting boyfriend applications" or even leads. Her qualifications were something like "must have a reasonable level of independence, must have a baseline of human decency, must be either employed or doing something to better the world", and that was it.

    People in the comments were saying "good luck but don't get your hopes up".