I, unfortunately, have experiences with both of these instances.
Allow me to answer both questions with: “a hole’s a hole”
When people ask me "what are you really?", I assume they're talking about my ethnic background >.> (not to take the conversation away from queer stuff, just relating my own experience back)
Asking enbies "AMAB or AFAB" & Asking bisexual people "do you like men or women more"
Both face the wall
its always a slap in the face when someone online ask me for my agab, hate it, why are they asking?
I've had people ask that, and I would ask them "Why?" and their response would be "I'm just curious," and it just leaves me like: what the fuck is so intriguing about it that it sparks your curiosity?
Have you tried asking people that second one? Would probably be very funny.
it totally boils down to "how do i frame and organize my interactions with you based entirely on your genitals?"
same kind of social function as medieval europeans basing how they talk to and interact with people based on class determining whether their interlocutor is above them/below them/their equal, but, ya know, it's all based on your bits.