Reminds me of the dating tip for women like "after you agree to a date, propose a different restaurant than the one he suggests and you agreed to". The idea is to see how the guy handles disagreements over incredibly minor stuff. To me, a cisgendered man, it seemed manipulative, but I also don't know what women go through while dating, since I've been with my partner for almost a decade at this point.
It's reasonable to take precautions, but deliberately misleading someone regarding your beliefs just feels like a bad choice, at least for a first date. If a long-time partner said they were into astrology, that would be different because there would already be something worth preserving.
I'm not sure about the restaurant thing, though if it wasn't really out of the way then I suppose it would be reasonable. But yeah, also cishet man so I am only stating my position/experience and not claiming it as absolute truth.
Oh my, yes. But I feel like there are positions that could be brought up which repel chads just as much as astrology (ie. feminism) which have the benefit of being actually valid.
Seems kind of manipulative to me.
Reminds me of the dating tip for women like "after you agree to a date, propose a different restaurant than the one he suggests and you agreed to". The idea is to see how the guy handles disagreements over incredibly minor stuff. To me, a cisgendered man, it seemed manipulative, but I also don't know what women go through while dating, since I've been with my partner for almost a decade at this point.
It's reasonable to take precautions, but deliberately misleading someone regarding your beliefs just feels like a bad choice, at least for a first date. If a long-time partner said they were into astrology, that would be different because there would already be something worth preserving.
I'm not sure about the restaurant thing, though if it wasn't really out of the way then I suppose it would be reasonable. But yeah, also cishet man so I am only stating my position/experience and not claiming it as absolute truth.
As men have been known to kill and eat their dates, few extra layers of security are worth it.
Oh my, yes. But I feel like there are positions that could be brought up which repel chads just as much as astrology (ie. feminism) which have the benefit of being actually valid.