It would help if you talked to me like I'm dumb.

I might lose a male friend because they could be getting romantically attached to me after I talked to them just like they're a girl.

I grew up around mostly girls and women to the point I don't fully get why I can't tell guy friends I love them. I kept telling one "I love ya dude!" To me, that sounds the same as "I love you as a friend!"

I thought spelling "you" as "ya" and adding the word "dude" firmly said "you're in the friend-zone." But no.

This is easily not the only example of where I fucked up, but I won't know unless it's pointed out to me and explained.


I'm furious that I live in a society :amerikkka: where I can't just tell guy friends that I love them.

  • boboblaw [he/him, they/them]
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    2 years ago

    Is this a variant of the wife guy phenomenon? I've been noticing that I identify your posting mainly through the effusive praise of your bf (who's amazing btw). Halfway through a post I think to myself "kristina posted this"; it's a signature style. It's sweet.

    • kristina [she/her]
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      2 years ago

      My bf is a god and I'm merely the slovenly goblin riding his coattails