It would help if you talked to me like I'm dumb.

I might lose a male friend because they could be getting romantically attached to me after I talked to them just like they're a girl.

I grew up around mostly girls and women to the point I don't fully get why I can't tell guy friends I love them. I kept telling one "I love ya dude!" To me, that sounds the same as "I love you as a friend!"

I thought spelling "you" as "ya" and adding the word "dude" firmly said "you're in the friend-zone." But no.

This is easily not the only example of where I fucked up, but I won't know unless it's pointed out to me and explained.

I'm furious that I live in a society :amerikkka: where I can't just tell guy friends that I love them.

  • Commander_Data [she/her]
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    2 years ago

    There's a pretty simple solution, girls should play more sports and there shouldn't be any sex separation in youth sports and other activities until age 12. I was a competitive athlete through college and beyond, and still play in adult rec leagues when I find the time as I creep up on 50. The women that were my teammates in high school, college, and professionally all had much better friendships with men and women. The sex separation in youth sports is also really dumb. If you look at height and muscle mass there is virtually no separation between the development of boys and girls until secondary sex characteristics start to develop. Allowing kids to play sports and share other activities regardless of their 23rd chromosome allows them to develop bonds with boys and girls and reinforces the idea that friendships can be formed with people of any sex or gender.

    • ToastGhost [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      and on top of that, all boys and all girls schools should be abolished, that shit makes socially stunted people.