There's this thing in public opinion where whatever people are mad about, they also overestimate how common it is by like a crazy amount.
Off the top of my head people think we should stop giving away so much money to poorer countries. Ask them how much of the budget goes to aid, they'll say something nuts like 20% when it's actually like 1%.
I haven't done this experiment in person but I bet I'd get a pretty ludicrous answer if we asked what percent of us are trans.
And it'd be pretty easy to debunk too. "oh you think it's 10%? So count the next ten customers to walk in. You think you typically serve a trans customer before 9am, and never noticed it?"
"......uh well maybe not 1/10. Maybe more like 1/100".
Where this is all going: you can convince a person that they are off by a crazy large amount fairly easily but you can never ever convince a person they're wrong.
Does this mean convincing people to be less enthusiastic about their wrong opinion is more viable than getting them to abandon wrong opinions?
Next time my facebook coworker screeds on the mythical girl who identifies as a cat and carries a litter box to school, I'm going to test his estimates. I bet I can't change his mind but I bet I can get him to be quieter.
Gender being a social construct, I wouldn't be surprised if most people just adopt the gender they get assigned and don't feel very strongly about it. Like if we snapped our fingers and all AMABs became AFABS and vice versa, most people would probably just switch over without missing a beat.
I've always felt that was basically true. I don't know about dysphoria, that magic swap might cause a lot of that or something. But as far as comfort in the role, I could just as easily be a woman, I really don't feel like being a man is an important part of my identity.