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My girlfriend and I have been talking about entering an open relationship the last 3 years. We’ve been together for 6 and had our ups and downs but we’ve been really solid the last two years. We love each other and I say our relationship is strong.

The last week, we’ve been laying ground rules for potentially opening up our relationship. We want to keep it very casual with other people.

Anyone willing to share their experience both good or bad?

  • ClimateChangeAnxiety [he/him, they/them]
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    2 years ago

    I suppose you’re right. But it still made me feel like a monster when I told her I needed to end things and she sobbed because she could see us being together for the rest of our lives.

    • UnicodeHamSic [he/him]
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      2 years ago

      As it should. You are, I assume, a good person. So causing another person pain made you feel bad. That it is good. That is a risk we open ourselfs up to when we become involved with other people. You probably did nothing wrong.

      In a perfect falgsc world there would be resupurces and rituals available to allow us to help people through pain like that. Under capitlaism where time is precious and resources are hard won it isn't easy for people to recieve the emotional labor they need. That isn't your fault.

      • ClimateChangeAnxiety [he/him, they/them]
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        2 years ago

        Yeah. It’s almost like being a human with complicated emotions is difficult or something. And even under falgsc “I don’t share your feelings, I love someone else” will still suck.

        • UnicodeHamSic [he/him]
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          2 years ago

          I think I mostly said that.

          No, it won't. Or at least not as bad. Pain is a sensation. It is created by your brain, that's why we can use medicine to change perceotion of it and stuff. Under falgsc where life is less stressful in general things like this would factually hurt less.