here's the thing: everyone complains about late capitalism and how alienated and isolated we all are. everyone acknowledges this, and reassures each other of this, alone.

you need to get out of yourself, and your head, and your small bubble of one, and you need to go see old friends, or former friends, or people in your social circle who are just meh, or your annoying roommates, or your co-workers, or your former co-workers, or your lame family members, or your lame and bigoted family members, or strangers at a bar, or whomever, and party. meeting people is praxis, strengthening relationships is praxis, making yourself seen and vulnerable to another is praxis. please, guys, go out.

this, here, now, is a facsimile, mediated through a thousand screens. go kiss, go get kissed, go reject a kiss, go be denied a kiss. go out.

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      • Yeat [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        you’re definitely right but i don’t think it’s fair to expect patience and all of that out of a simple 3 paragraph post, that comes with forming a personal connection with someone and communicating with them over a long period of time. i also don’t really see how the op is tough love or aggressive or anything like that either, they aren’t looking down on other users for not going out or saying anything bad about them

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          • robot_dog_with_gun [they/them]
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            2 years ago

            Encouraging people to go out and take risks and be emotionally vulnerable (which is indeed necessary for personal growth because we are social creatures) is a lot easier when the person feels like someone is there to catch them if they metaphorically fall. For that reason, the encouragement works best when it’s personal and personalized, or at the very least patient and understanding if it’s from someone the person doesn’t know too closely.

            :chefs-kiss:

    • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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      2 years ago

      if you want to be happy in your lifetime the solution has to personal.

      "we all eat from the trashcan" :zizek-ok:

      Sorry it only works if you're lucky. At the end of the day thats not even true because the solution depends on forming meaningful bonds with other people so it cannot categorically be a personal solution* JFL.

      Not a single word beyond that either lmao

      jk you have the same problem as OP, literally good for you that you are feeling better now but fuck off with the condescension. It isn't that the advice isn't valid, its simply that OP's post isn't advice in the first place.

      OP is just an antisocial normie who happened to have a good night out on New Years with his buddy boyos. However, unlike the vast majority of other people who experienced the same, OP decided to make a condescending bragpost about it on the internet because they don't know any other way to share and process their joy other than to use it to talk down to people. Its fucking sad and reeks of soylent.

      • Yeat [he/him]
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        2 years ago

        i’m sorry but you’re being a million times more condescending, rude, and bitter than op and the person you’re responding to. them saying “hey this advice worked for me” is not them being condescending to you jesus fucking christ

        and nowhere in this post was op bragging or talking down, it was obviously encouragement to be more social more than anything. i didn’t have any plans this nye but when i read this i didn’t throw a fit i thought “yeah they’re not wrong there’s some old friends i could probably send a text too” and “i definitely need stay off social media more”and assuming that they went out and partied and calling them “an antisocial normie” just reeks of projection and just being terminally online. i mean this in the most respectful way possible: please log off for a bit and go text some old friends or family or do something not on your phone/computer for an extended period of time.

          • Yeat [he/him]
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            2 years ago

            i’m not pissed at you just thought your comment was embarrassing and a bit over the top, and i do have a good group of friends the fuck are you talking about 😭 these assumptions you’re making about me are just bat shit insane you don’t know me lil bro, that whole thing genuinely might be the most insufferable and incomprehensible thing i’ve ever read, all over someone telling you to “get out” LMFAOOO

            also don’t know why you’re telling me to pick up a dictionary i just literally quoted back what you said to them since you called them antisocial and you keep talking about my comprehension skills when i never said op said the word advice, the guy you were replying to said the word advice jesus christ 😭😭 yes “you need to go out” grammatically speaking is a command but cmon it just isn’t that big of a deal, and the title isn’t “i had a fun time this nye” because the post isn’t about them or a bragpost, it’s telling OTHER people to get out.

            and i can’t believe you’re saying op is bragging when you literally just fucking bragged about what you did for nye and tried to rub it in my face when i said i didn’t do anything and managed to word it in the nerdiest way possible, which is just extremely pathetic you hypocritical dork. it’s not “telling” that i didn’t do anything. i fucking work, something clearly you don’t do since you spend all day crying online. the only one punching down here is you

            i don’t need advice off the internet, just thought op’s post was sweet and obviously not in bad faith and thought everyone getting mad at it (aside from people talking about not having time to or covid that’s valid) was being ridiculous. anyways just got off the phone with an old friend hope you do the same since you seem wayyyy too angry, log out and have a happy new years 👍

            • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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              2 years ago

              at the end of the day, I did and you didn't, I never get mad at "muh interwebz" lmao only a select few individuals who use it

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        • Yeat [he/him]
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          2 years ago

          LMAO yup

          everyone in here is basically being like “well if a problem is societal then there’s nothing on a personal level we can do about it!”

          by their logic, hunger is societal issue made worse by capitalism, guess there’s no point in me, an individual, feeding hungry.

          the reaction to this post has made me realize how many users here are just flat out terminally online and out of touch with the real world and it’s kind of disgusting to see after frequenting this community since the r/cth days it’s genuinely upsetting to me

              • Sandinband
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                2 years ago

                Since you're a seahorse is outside the ocean for you

                  • Sandinband
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                    2 years ago

                    I pray you get to enjoy more erotic asphyxiation and don't get eaten by a bird :rat-salute:

            • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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              2 years ago

              Nobody here is a normie, JFL at you for thinking you are and still posting here. Youre literally just a cuckservative larping as a leftist normie.

          • SuperNovaCouchGuy2 [any]
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            2 years ago

            everyone in here is basically being like “well if a problem is societal then there’s nothing on a personal level we can do about it!”

            by their logic, hunger is societal issue made worse by capitalism, guess there’s no point in me, an individual, feeding hungry.

            none of what you wrote here is true or makes any fucking sense. The ironic thing is that I have half a mind to log off from this website and never come back again at this point because the chance of meeting asinine neoliberalized fucks like yourself in social contexts outside are orders of magnitude lesser than on the internet, even on sites like this.

            Holy Fujitsu too:

            many users here are just flat out terminally online and out of touch with the real world

            (I have been) frequenting this community since the r/cth days it’s genuinely upsetting to me

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            • Yeat [he/him]
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              2 years ago

              i had a serious thing typed up in response but after re-reading i feel like you’re joking with me i can’t tell LMAO

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                • Yeat [he/him]
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                  2 years ago

                  what? i don’t think those people are disgusting at all and feel for them. what’s disgusting is the hostility in the comments from a community i thought was a lot more friendly than this

                  • Spectre_of_Z_poster [they/them]
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                    2 years ago

                    what’s disgusting is the hostility in the comments from a community i thought was a lot more friendly than this

                    Lmao, this is possibly the least friendly community I’ve ever encountered

                    • Yeat [he/him]
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                      2 years ago

                      well damn that’s unfortunate to hear :/ 90% of my interactions here and at r/cth were just lurking so i never really was that invested but discovering r/cth back in 2018/2019 was how i got into marxism and all that so that just sucks

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                    • Yeat [he/him]
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                      2 years ago

                      “several day slumber” bro i just get on this website for 5-10 minutes like 1-2 days a week and engage here on a normal, casual level 😭 just because i don’t post here constantly doesn’t make me an alt jesus

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                        • Yeat [he/him]
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                          2 years ago

                          instant upvoting is crazy, respectfully i think you should log off. you’ve made some good points and i even responded to something else you said in the thread outside of this about something else and agreed with it, but i think a lot of this argument is just simple miscommunication (like you thinking i was calling those people disgusting for being asocial when i wasn’t) but the whole alt, instant upvoting, wrecker, concern trolling shit is just baffling and something an extremely online person’s head would go to which is why i thought you were joking at first

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                            • Yeat [he/him]
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                              2 years ago

                              responses like this make me feel like you’re doing a bit but it’s driving me crazy because you’re actually making other genuine, well thought out points in other comments

                              and just in case this is fr, no i’m not accusing you of mental illness and no mentally ill people aren’t bad tf? saying a concept (instant upvoting) is crazy doesn’t mean i’m calling you that or saying “crazy” people are bad

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                              • Yeat [he/him]
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                                2 years ago

                                it HAS to be a bit it HAS to be right?

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                                • Yeat [he/him]
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                                  2 years ago

                                  i wasn’t using it in a hostile way or actually calling you crazy (i was saying instant upvoting was crazy), i’m sorry if you took it that way

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                                    • Yeat [he/him]
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                                      2 years ago

                                      i’m playing the victim for apologizing since you took something i said the wrong way? i’m not a fucking victim i was just trying to be nice to you since you seemed hurt by it and make it clear i wasn’t calling you crazy LMAO

                                      my cover as an undercover chud fbi agent wrecker set on concern trolling people who are mad at someone saying to go outside is blown now though, all thanks to your remarkable detective work. everyone here at the agency is hoping to get you on the db cooper case

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                                        • Yeat [he/him]
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                                          2 years ago

                                          i’m just matching your hostility since 1. it’s funny 2. i was engaging you in a nice manner and conceding when i thought you made a good point

                                          also you know you can just stop responding right? 😭 if i keep responding you can just ignore it

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                                            • Yeat [he/him]
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                                              2 years ago

                                              upvoting because this actually made me laugh irl 😭

                                              enjoy the new year (genuinely this isn’t sarcasm)

                        • thisismyrealname [he/him]
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                          2 years ago

                          another "alt" here to tell you that your posts have been 100x more abrasive, hostile, and bad-faith than anyone else's in this thread