Seeing the struggle sessions about the left not giving enough good advice to dudes and deciding to just give the advice yourself is a powerful move :gigachad:
Article on conversation styles was pretty interesting. I used to be pretty shy and a lot the advice you get is to just ask the other person a lot of questions, which can make conversations feel like interviews and be kinda unpleasant. After I became more confident and willing to talk about myself and my own interests it became way easier to bond with people.
I definitely don't compliment people as much as I should. It creates good vibes all around. I'm planning to spend this weekend as alone as possible since the last couple were really social and stressful due to the christmas and new years, but I'll make sure to hand out some compliments on monday thanks to this thread :rat-salute:
i saw a lot of people talking about quizzing people or interviewing them and as somebody who tries really hard to connect with people i spend time talking to i ask a lot of questions and i have to say the best way for it to feel like an interview is when one person is asking about the other person and the other person just answers and never asks anything back. i can't tell you how many people at parties just let me ask about them and then there's awkward silence and i can offer info about myself but often it feels unwarranted or weird. so, in conclusion, if you want to have a 'normal' conversation then ask people about themselves and dig into whatever genuinely interests you and hopefully they're someone who asks you back and then, voila! you have a conversation.
Seeing the struggle sessions about the left not giving enough good advice to dudes and deciding to just give the advice yourself is a powerful move :gigachad:
Article on conversation styles was pretty interesting. I used to be pretty shy and a lot the advice you get is to just ask the other person a lot of questions, which can make conversations feel like interviews and be kinda unpleasant. After I became more confident and willing to talk about myself and my own interests it became way easier to bond with people.
I definitely don't compliment people as much as I should. It creates good vibes all around. I'm planning to spend this weekend as alone as possible since the last couple were really social and stressful due to the christmas and new years, but I'll make sure to hand out some compliments on monday thanks to this thread :rat-salute:
i saw a lot of people talking about quizzing people or interviewing them and as somebody who tries really hard to connect with people i spend time talking to i ask a lot of questions and i have to say the best way for it to feel like an interview is when one person is asking about the other person and the other person just answers and never asks anything back. i can't tell you how many people at parties just let me ask about them and then there's awkward silence and i can offer info about myself but often it feels unwarranted or weird. so, in conclusion, if you want to have a 'normal' conversation then ask people about themselves and dig into whatever genuinely interests you and hopefully they're someone who asks you back and then, voila! you have a conversation.