Yeah, it seems to be a major problem here that I just like...don't have. I can strike up a conversation with just about anyone and people tend to open up pretty quick around me. Like, I met an older lady in my walk to work the other day and while chatting about neighborhood cats she dropped that her landlord was trying to sell the place out from under her, which had happened to me a year ago and I hooked her up with contacts for the tenancy board and local IWW. I've always just kinda been someone that strangers wanna talk to and all it took for me was to stop being in my early 20s and get over myself a bit. I've got a look that ingratiates me to both the stylish and the homeless on site as well, I'm sure that helps.
Someone once told me I have the face of a "school shooter" so I guess I have some weird aura I give off. Probably something within my control, I'll work on it.
OP did have a solid point regarding fashion. My hair is like if Cruella DeVille played in a dbeat band and I dress the same. I can also do 80s Goth Mode. Consistency of style is important. Like, no matter how high quality or whatever the clothes, I find most dudes just dress like shit. My ripped up t shirt over a waffle shirt with a studded denim vest, skinny jeans, motorcycle boots and awesome hair is gonna be a better look than a guy with a fade, sorta baggy blue jeans and a brand shirt any day
Yeah, it seems to be a major problem here that I just like...don't have. I can strike up a conversation with just about anyone and people tend to open up pretty quick around me. Like, I met an older lady in my walk to work the other day and while chatting about neighborhood cats she dropped that her landlord was trying to sell the place out from under her, which had happened to me a year ago and I hooked her up with contacts for the tenancy board and local IWW. I've always just kinda been someone that strangers wanna talk to and all it took for me was to stop being in my early 20s and get over myself a bit. I've got a look that ingratiates me to both the stylish and the homeless on site as well, I'm sure that helps.
Someone once told me I have the face of a "school shooter" so I guess I have some weird aura I give off. Probably something within my control, I'll work on it.
OP did have a solid point regarding fashion. My hair is like if Cruella DeVille played in a dbeat band and I dress the same. I can also do 80s Goth Mode. Consistency of style is important. Like, no matter how high quality or whatever the clothes, I find most dudes just dress like shit. My ripped up t shirt over a waffle shirt with a studded denim vest, skinny jeans, motorcycle boots and awesome hair is gonna be a better look than a guy with a fade, sorta baggy blue jeans and a brand shirt any day
Which also may not be everyone's look, but just have a Look.