People that go super hard on that sort of way of socializing always turn me off because it seems like they’re following steps told to them on how to socialize.
For people learning it'll definitely come off like this at first, but if they keep at it then eventually it'll become smooth. It's weird that for other skills we expect there to be complete noobs who fumble and make mistakes but when it comes to social skills suddenly everyone has to "be organic" or else it's cringe.
Well, it's also the same way someone who wants to take advantage of you will approach you, so it's kinda hard to not be defensive. Mechanics for faking it till you make it social skills at early steps are hard to discern from PUA tactics and Bosses. This is the fault of PUA tacticians and bosses because they beed to learn to socialize that way because they are bad people. I don't really know what to do approach wise, reception wise I'm familiar enough to know it's just how some people go about meeting others and go along, I can also usually tell what the angle is from context, it just sets of an initial irrational red flag.
For people learning it'll definitely come off like this at first, but if they keep at it then eventually it'll become smooth. It's weird that for other skills we expect there to be complete noobs who fumble and make mistakes but when it comes to social skills suddenly everyone has to "be organic" or else it's cringe.
Well, it's also the same way someone who wants to take advantage of you will approach you, so it's kinda hard to not be defensive. Mechanics for faking it till you make it social skills at early steps are hard to discern from PUA tactics and Bosses. This is the fault of PUA tacticians and bosses because they beed to learn to socialize that way because they are bad people. I don't really know what to do approach wise, reception wise I'm familiar enough to know it's just how some people go about meeting others and go along, I can also usually tell what the angle is from context, it just sets of an initial irrational red flag.
says a lot about the whole "fake it until you make it" thing