IDK this whole men on this site need advice thing has convinced me that people here really think this isn't a safe place to ask questions about how to, IDK, be?. So ask them here I guess if you didn't ask them in the other thread.
I'm drunk and going to sleep now, but I have the day off tomorrow and will sincerely commit to effort-posting responses if anyone has genuine questions they want some in depth advice to.
I will say I'm just a guy who thinks he has enough trips around the sun to have some insight to share but I am not an authority on anything, so anyone else please feel free to chime in
Yeah IDK, I can tell you for me I use the term to describe how little people pay attention to you. For instance, I have social anxiety and don't love being a center of attention, so I dress in clothing that doesn't make people look at me when I go buy some tomatoes. I don't actually care about what my hair or clothes look like, I just want to fade into the background.