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why does the site ask for pronouns when you sign up
Removed by modmight be the wrong place to complain about this idk honestly weird design choice. would prefer for their to be an opt-out option but i don't really see that here.
well I hear the devs are supposed to be working on custom flairs, which seems to be what you want. As for them being "janky" I would recommend just dealing with it? Next to the name is where all the other information goes so I don't think there's a better place. If it is really making you uncomfortable for some reason I'd recommend doing some self reflection because it ain't a design problem
Wasn't it originally open for anyone to write the pronouns they wanted, but they closed it off because wreckers were abusing the feature? And isn't the way it works now that you can message the mods if your pronouns aren't in the list?
I could be misremembering but I don't think that was ever implemented, though the idea was floated and was shot down for fear of abuse. The pronoun flair struggle sessions were wild, the last few feel pretty tame compared to the ones early on.
Right. We considered it making an open text field but settled on the decision to make it an accept-list before it rolled out. It probably wouldn't make much of a difference now, but at the time we didn't know how much this place would grow, or how many trolls it would attract. There were quite a few trolls in the early days, and a bunch of tailists who eventually got driven out.
The decision to have people opt out of the feature instead of opt in was made because on many social media sites, if trans people are the only people using tags like this, it makes them much easier to single out and harass. It is like this because that is how the community decided they wanted the site to work. The implementation has some rough edges, but it works.
That sounds about right, I may have misremembered it being implemented. It would pretty likely be abused indeed so it does make sense they decided on the current system.
cool. literally all i wanted to know, no need to be hostile
people are giving you a lot of shit because we have had many trolls come in with these exact questions before and a lot of general "drama" around the pronouns feature. So the community comes down hard on pronoun criticism. If you aren't a troll that's cool and don't worry people won't always be so rude to you here.
yeah that makes sense now. in retrospect i maybe should have been less blunt.