Everything social comes naturally and intuitively for them to the point that behavioral introspection seems to be something they only need to do occasionally and as such they are resistant to doing so

Whereas NDs like me have to constantly monitor our thoughts and behaviors and "acting naturally" is like the worst thing we can do

And so there's a massive disconnect in experience and perception to the point that interaction with an NT is genuinely stressful because they just roll with the natural assumptions and rhythms that carry them through socialization and get upset if you're out of sync and ask for clarification or try to explain your alternative thinking

Makes it feel like they have no empathy for us and ironically results in projection and accusations that we don't care when we're trying our best not to upset people and hope against hope we went with the right assumptions this time, because holy fuck do they get upset otherwise