or they’ll just go “oh yeah I have that too haha” as a way to subtly guilt trip you into dealing with it for their sake.
So, I'm neurotypical (I think :hyperflush: ) so I haven't had any experience with this situation and I don't know the full context behind you saying this, but is there any chance "I have that too" is an ignorant but well-meaning attempt to relate to you or make you feel at ease as opposed to a way to guilt trip you? Because I can totally see myself saying something like that while thinking I'm being nice lmao.
I have ADHD, was diagnosed just over a year ago and it's been non-stop "oh shit so that's why". However the amount of people telling me it's not a real thing or "everyone has those struggles" is frustrating.
But I'm always open to talk about it with others and talk about "hey I do/have/struggle with that too" because... it's exactly what made me search for a psychiatrist which lead to my diagnosis. Like most subjects, it depends on context and how you are approaching the subject. And maybe just try and make your intentions clear and upfront.
Like "I have that too, what do you do to try to circumvent it" is very different than "I have that too, everyone does, just XYZ"
it depends on context. and with the company I keep there's a big likelihood that when I describe, say, noise sensitivity to people, they actually do experience exactly when I'm talking about. it's just a bit effacing when someone who I know has absolutely zero issues with crowds and background noise says this to me, after I just explained that I literally can't track a conversation with someone right next to me when it gets bad enough.
I know this sounds like whinging but minor frustrations over the course of decades tend to turn into big frustrations :yea:
So, I'm neurotypical (I think :hyperflush: ) so I haven't had any experience with this situation and I don't know the full context behind you saying this, but is there any chance "I have that too" is an ignorant but well-meaning attempt to relate to you or make you feel at ease as opposed to a way to guilt trip you? Because I can totally see myself saying something like that while thinking I'm being nice lmao.
I have ADHD, was diagnosed just over a year ago and it's been non-stop "oh shit so that's why". However the amount of people telling me it's not a real thing or "everyone has those struggles" is frustrating.
But I'm always open to talk about it with others and talk about "hey I do/have/struggle with that too" because... it's exactly what made me search for a psychiatrist which lead to my diagnosis. Like most subjects, it depends on context and how you are approaching the subject. And maybe just try and make your intentions clear and upfront.
Like "I have that too, what do you do to try to circumvent it" is very different than "I have that too, everyone does, just XYZ"
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it depends on context. and with the company I keep there's a big likelihood that when I describe, say, noise sensitivity to people, they actually do experience exactly when I'm talking about. it's just a bit effacing when someone who I know has absolutely zero issues with crowds and background noise says this to me, after I just explained that I literally can't track a conversation with someone right next to me when it gets bad enough.
I know this sounds like whinging but minor frustrations over the course of decades tend to turn into big frustrations :yea: