Why was a community that’s so disproportionately queer and neurodiverse lauding the merits of bullying when in the larger we’re so much more likely to be the victims?

Because at the end of the day, this is fundamentally a subreddit dedicated to a comedy entertainment podcast fandom, and is full of people repeating ironic comedy bits from their favorite podcast hosts as though they were genuine political convictions. They act like roasting some shitty NYT columnist on twitter is the highest form of political praxis because roasting shitty NYT columnists on twitter made for funny podcast content. Fandoms are insular and they feel personally threatened when the fandom norms aren't upheld.