I think what this is about is that this lady expects each and every friend in her life to be this deep, meaningful relationship where you understand each other perfectly, etc. Because that's what she wants so badly.
It's OK to have shallow friendships. People you see a couple times a year, distant friends. Even bar buddies, people you never see outside of a bar. But something tells me she wouldn't stand for any of this.
i think exclusive framing of friendship like the OP is self-fulfilling prophecy---if bar buddy is "acquantance" not "friend" you'll never be friend-ly and never get to be more familiar
whereas the person who is friendly and considers someone they just met a friend will always be reaching friendship with those receptive of it :stalin-smokin:
There are people I've known for years and yet never seen them outside the bar.
And that's OK. It's OK to have friends that aren't deep. I like my bar buddies, they keep me company at the bar. What else am I supposed to do at 10pm on a Tuesday and I'm bored at home?
But if the only thing you want is deep, meaningful experiences where the two of you know every detail about each other like this woman apparently does...well, you're asking too much from life, I think.
I think what this is about is that this lady expects each and every friend in her life to be this deep, meaningful relationship where you understand each other perfectly, etc. Because that's what she wants so badly.
It's OK to have shallow friendships. People you see a couple times a year, distant friends. Even bar buddies, people you never see outside of a bar. But something tells me she wouldn't stand for any of this.
i think exclusive framing of friendship like the OP is self-fulfilling prophecy---if bar buddy is "acquantance" not "friend" you'll never be friend-ly and never get to be more familiar
whereas the person who is friendly and considers someone they just met a friend will always be reaching friendship with those receptive of it :stalin-smokin:
There are people I've known for years and yet never seen them outside the bar.
And that's OK. It's OK to have friends that aren't deep. I like my bar buddies, they keep me company at the bar. What else am I supposed to do at 10pm on a Tuesday and I'm bored at home?
But if the only thing you want is deep, meaningful experiences where the two of you know every detail about each other like this woman apparently does...well, you're asking too much from life, I think.