For awhile I used to hang around with a bunch of gamers. Group was predominantly early 20s straight men. Decent guys honestly, despite being :freeze-gamer:.

I got a reputation for being the guy who fucks, despite the fact I "shouldn't" be. I'm overweight, poor, disabled, not over 6ft, not packing, the lot. Whatever reason incels say you can't get a date, I check that box. Also not where their heads ever go - but I'm not just some great hang, particularly funny, or even have some cool hobby I am passionate about. I'm introverted and nerdy.

So these guys are lonely and struggling, and given this is basically the equivalent of magic they'd come to me for advice. They're wealthier, more attractive, fitter, taller, etc.

The thing I have learned is that dating apps are a fucking cancer whose impact cannot be overstated. I've never used one, but these guys would talk about how they're putting themselves out there and going through hundreds of people without a real match. They'd follow all the nonsense advice about just taking better pictures or getting a better bio. Their self-esteem is totally destroyed and their brains are getting warped to be susceptible to incel bullshit.

Frankly I hope AI bots ruin dating apps. I think it's a imperative that they get destroyed for the well being of society at large.

Also if you're struggling, literally just do anything where you socialize with whatever gender you prefer naturally. That's it. If you're not at that point already, any other advice is just putting the cart before the horse.