seriously my friends tell me to watch a bunch of shows and so fuckin many of them are obnoxiously pervy right out the gate :stalin-stressed:

  • RedQuestionAsker2 [he/him, she/her]
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    2 years ago

    Yeah, showing unhealthy behavior is cool and good in media, but I think the show kind of has to demonstrate that it's unhealthy, not romantic.

    I have had multiple people say that fighting with your SO constantly is actually good because it shows you're passionate. Conversely, couples who don't fight have let the fire go out and are just living hollow lives.

    I have to imagine they pick some of this up through the overwhelming amount of conflict ridden media everyone consumes.

    • AHopeOnceMore [he/him]B
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      2 years ago

      Love is all about being terrible at communicating with one another, being quick to anger, and expecting others to follow a bunch of unspoken rules otherwise it's fighting time.

      Also it's romantic to grab people and force them to kiss you.

      • BynarsAreOk [none/use name]
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        2 years ago

        I don't know if you are entirely joking or not but many of the romance tropes in anime are entirely based on Japanese cultural norms.

        Shocker I know but things like making a big deal about kissing or holding hands isn't just fluff or inability to write good story. Good or bad its not just an anime thing.

    • zifnab25 [he/him, any]
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      2 years ago

      Conversely, couples who don’t fight have let the fire go out and are just living hollow lives.

      I mean... there's a certain angle on that which is kinda-sorta true. Human interactions create conflict and its not abnormal for couples to argue or show resentment towards one another for different reasons. Its not good, but it also isn't strictly unhealthy either. On the flip side, couples that are either incidentally or deliberately avoiding one another tend to be in relationships on the decline. So I can see "fewer fights" because you're literally just hiding from one another (either physically or emotionally) as a really bad sign for long term marital health.

      But fighting with your SO is also often a sign that you're both under a lot of stress. I wouldn't even say that's problematizing relationships with partners so much as it seems to breeze by why the couple feels under the gun all the damned time.