the one I think of immediately is that my dad would always say “stop being such a girl” when I complained about things. I picked up the phrase when I was young without thinking about it
then I said it to someone in elementary school and they said “what’s wrong with being a girl” and I was like wait yeah wtf why am I saying this
I was raised by a single mom and my father, a known womanizer, left us when I was 11 and I somehow got it in my head that pursuing and being sexually attracted to girls was brutish and for dog men only. My teens were filled with feeling shame and disgust over innocent stolen glances (never did awooga-level shit, always knew it was bad) and crushing on cute girls. Reading about sex-positive feminism helped so much and made it clear that healthy relationships are possible.
that makes a lot of sense. i'd grown up with a lot of shame attached to sex in general but i can see how this would poison your idea of attraction