I watched the video linked above yesterday morning, and it really blew my mind. I'm still processing it and would love to discuss it with you all.

It's 08m04s, no music, sound effects, startles, or sponsor shit, just a late-diagnosed woman discussing a revelation she had about communication differences.

She explains it better than I will, but to give you the overview, she thinks that allistics prioritize the parts of the communication process this way:

  1. feelings
  2. social context
  3. information exchange

and autistics instead do

  1. information exchange
  2. social context
  3. feelings

The way she explains it (and the examples she gives) makes so much sense to me. Idk yet how to incorporate that new understanding into my attempts to communicate with allistics, but wow, yeah, this extremely simple difference blew my mind and seems obvious in retrospect.

  • the_itsb [she/her, comrade/them]
    hexagon
    ·
    6 months ago

    Have you taken the CAT-Q, which is geared towards high-masking individuals? My score on it surprised me; I expected to score somewhere in the autistic range, but I was much higher than I thought I'd be.

    • Chronicon [comrade/them]
      ·
      edit-2
      6 months ago

      hahah fuck okay well

      I was much higher than I thought I'd be.

      yeah same.

      also interesting to see the NB scores broken out. would be interested to know if the same applies to binary trans ppl