So most of us saw the Steven Crowder video of him being a huge abusive knob to his wife. So instead of feeling angry like most people, I felt sad. Like I've done this, although ffs never that far. I have had long drawn out arguments with exes when the quantity of sex was low. My last ex had some sort of health issue reducing her interest. What sucks is that I took it personally, whinged and argued a lot over this. Mid way through our relationship, she would literally thank me with genuine gratitude when I took care of my own needs.

If you kids forgot, my current partner has long COVID. She's often suffering with some real unpleasant and sometimes terrifying shit, and frankly sex isn't on the table during those times. And nowadays I just make sure to take care of my things in my own space and not to make her situation even worse.

So in conclusion, good guys masterbate to keep themselves from being knobheads to their partners. You don't want to look back to a past when you did a Steven Crowder.

Edit: if I can self crit a bit so that younger comrades can do better than me, I'd rather that than people imagining that ButtBidet is perfect.