He’s been an absolute monster throughout this divorce and any time I criticize him, he acts like I don’t like him being with men. Bro, I am begging you to get a steady boyfriend. I am begging you to be a slut and go get some dick. I am begging you to go on dates and do cute things with someone you enjoy. Do literally anything gay as long as it makes you happy. I want to see you happy. I want to be able to think of you as anything other than a chaos demon. It’s been nice seeing my mom happy after moving on. I want to see my dad happy. But his internalized homophobia and biphobia’s got him convinced that the man he’s been fucking and cohabitating with and going on dates with and coparenting his children with for 6 months is “just a friend” and that I don’t approve because I’m grossed out by gay people.

For context, I am a 6’4” fully bearded demi-man who exclusively wears leggings and thigh highs. My hair is grown down to my ass and dyed in a teal to sea foam ombre. I’ve got a nose ring and my nails are typically manicured. My watch wristband is a trans flag and my other bracelet is rainbow colored. The two times I got detention in high school it was for punching a kid who kept telling my lesbian friend she was going to hell. I’m not saying that queer people can’t be homophobic. I’m just saying that I’ve been very open about how I feel about queerness and have done nothing to signal to my father that he’s an exception.

Edit: I also wanted to include that the state of the older gay community in our area is an absolute mess. More of the men that he’s been with were deeply closeted than weren’t. Like, “church pastor with a wife and 3 kids” closeted.